Getting over him, properly

Not a mood. A practice.

"Getting over him" gets described like weather — something that happens to you if you wait long enough. It isn't. Women who recover fastest aren't the ones who feel less; they're the ones who do specific things in the specific order their situation calls for. These long-form guides are that order, written out.

Each guide is a deep dive into one version of getting over him: getting over someone you still live with, someone you were with for a decade, someone who was never officially yours, someone you keep going back to. The situations differ in what they demand — a situationship needs a grief the world won't validate; a decade-long relationship needs an identity rebuild. The guide for yours will not hand you generic steps.

Start with today, not with week one. Every guide is structured so that the first section is something you can complete this evening, and the rest unfolds from there. If you fall off for a week — you will, everyone does — the guides are built to be re-entered mid-way, not restarted. Progress here isn't a streak; it's a direction.

• By situation, not slogan

  Still living together, ten years in, never official, on-and-off for years. There's a guide shaped like your reality.

• Starts this evening

  Section one of every guide is doable tonight. No preparation, no prerequisites, no shopping list.

• Re-enterable

  Fall off the plan for ten days? Pick up where you left off. These guides assume life will interrupt them.

• Honest about the backslide

  Each guide includes the week where it stops working and what to do then — the part most advice skips.